I offer up some metaphors that really helped me.
You are adrift in the ocean amid a hurricane –no anchor –no visible shore
And the waves are thrashing, and you feel you can’t come up for air
what do you do when you feel you are drowning in the ocean storm?
You set down an anchor and you start to float
You turn over and stop swimming upstream
You roll over and float
And if you can breathe you know you are alive
You keep breathing and then you slow your breath down
It was fast like you were drowning but now you slow the pace
You and your breath become one
You slow it down
It breathes for you and keeps you alive
Together the breath and you
If you can breathe you will survive
If you have your breath, you are still living
Now from this place of aliveness you find your strength your stillness and you throw out an anchor
You steady yourself
You find the masculine –your presence– your stillness and once that is regained you notice you’re floating with the waves and in those waves, you begin to flow again
And in the flow, you can find your feminine again
So how do you this in real life
How do you find This masculine and This feminine
It’s the same
You start with your breath
Really, if you are alive, you possess your breath and you begin to control your breath rather than let your breath control you
Your notice your breath
You count your breath
You slow your breath
And you slow it down some more
And even more and this helps you remember you are alive, and you will survive
And once you are in control —the breath —the wind —the force of the hurricane that tried to knock you over and crush you didn’t — you see you are still here
And now that you have control of your breath you can decide what kind of breath do you desire —- slow and steady or fast and energizing
Which will bring pleasure and flow?
Which will bring you back to the present?
Which breath will help you find your true self?
Which breath is you?
Which breath is your true feminine??
And this —this control of the breath allows you to choose
to be in your feminine with your masculine together as one…
And you can laugh
Or you can cry
You can rage
Or you can giggle
You can let go of the storm that is trying to unmoor you— you can free fall — let go of the rudder -let go of this boat or this particular destination ——
you could always float on your back
surf the waves and have a blast
Yes, you can let go and from this new vantage point you can breathe and decide that it’s time to cut the engine and just sail
and let the wind take you to whatever new adventure lies ahead
and you are committed, and now ,you know too
that you will travel in style —
on a cruise ship
or a pirate ship
or a surfboard
but whatever way you’ll now travel
it will be with
Ease and Flow
I invite you to play with me as we dive into how to play more and stress less in life and love.